The Reality of Human Expectations
Expectations are the limits of what a person hopes should happen, while reality is what actually does happen.
For example, waking up in the morning to get ready for work. You probably visualize a smooth transition between home and work; no hassle, maybe even a few tracks from your “commute to work” playlist to set the mood for a great day. What could go wrong? Right?
The problem is reality might have a totally different outcome for you; after all, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making plans”.Expectations are the limits of what a person hopes should happen, while reality is what actually does happen. Click To Tweet
Reality: Your car refuses to start, you rip your shirt trying to tinker with the battery, and eventually, you abandon the car for public transport. Despite all this, reality still has a few tricks up its sleeves - it begins to rain immediately you get to the bus stop, and you’re drenched by the time you find a bus. So much for a great day.
This disparity between expectations and reality has bred some pretty interesting schools of thought. Concerning expectations from the outside world, I believe it was Alexander Pope who said, “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.” Renowned physicist, Stephen Hawking, said in agreement, “My expectations were reduced to zero when I was 21. Everything since then has been a bonus.” Russell Wilson expressed his acquiescence: “I have high expectations of myself. I always have, always will. That will never waver. I always believe in my talent - always have.”“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.” - Alexander Pope Click To Tweet
In essence, I believe strongly in the application of these two ideals in achieving your goals in this Summer of Love. As for self-expectation, it is important to set high standards for yourself. According to Norman Vincent Peale, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” The only limit that you should be subject yourself to is your imagination; dream big, or not at all. Grab the bull by the horns and show it who’s in charge!“I have high expectations of myself. I always have, always will. That will never waver. I always believe in my talent - always have.” - Russell Wilson Click To Tweet
Also, in the area of expectations from the outside world, it is important to understand the incessantly dynamic nature of life, and recognize the futility in expecting from the world. It is vital to take everything at face value and adapt the tools you possess to the present situation.
That being said, it is also important to understand your expectations for others, as well as their expectations for you. It is important that both are managed in tandem, in order to not only achieve your goals, but also simultaneously support the people around you. This should be given the utmost priority, I am particularly fond of this statement: “You are only as successful as the people around you”. Remember that this period is not just about self-improvement but also communal living and collective growth.You are only as successful as the people around you. Click To Tweet
See you on the other side...